| > They’re expensive ($300k each You can easily adjust your spending by an order of magnitude either direction. > they age you faster Yeah, I'm sure you'd have been looking great at 60 if not for those damned kids. > there is no guarantee the experience is worth it Satisfying the primary evolutionary optimization criterion seems overwhelmingly likely to be worth it. > They also destroy relationship satisfaction in the early years What do you think the effect on relationship satisfaction will be in later years to have lost your youth in any case, but also to be in a sterile relationship with no connection to the future? > It is not for the faint of heart. Almost anyone can handle it. Nutrient-deprived illiterate cavemen have been doing it for hundreds of thousands of years without much issue - anyone doing it today is probably fine. |
Suffering is a choice I suppose, just go into it with both eyes open. That’s my thesis. You can have a great life without having kids. Unpartnered older childfree women are one of the happiest cohorts, for example.