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Father here. Yes, it was the biggest change in my whole life. I could switch career and become a plumber it wouldn't be as radical.

If you don't believe in letting natural selection sort if you child will get past 2 yo, you 'll either recenter your whole environment and routines around the kid, or spend 90% or your time make sure they don't stab themselves with your antique knives collection or soldering iron.

Fo that for a few years and you won't be switching back to what you were before just because your kid can now read your phone password from your finger movements from across the room.

I think the same thing happens when you're looking after your elderly parents.

PS: > We all grew up with parents that weren't perfect, and we all ended up just fine.

I talked to my parents a while after my kids were out of the "let's gob anything that can fit in my face hole", and I also basically robbed a few years of their life where they basically frozr their career and couldn't do much outside of making sure we're not dying. Some parents forget how hard it was though (and it's normal. Your brain is really in a bad state all that time)