| When you have people who depend on you to provide, how you manage risk changes. A baby needs everything! Frankly, you CAN take time to improve your situation, and you will need to do that. Don't worry about being ready. Almost nobody is and those who attempt to plan it all out, prep up and the like, frequently end up refactoring all that work and planning as life happens! Do worry about giving this your best. That counts. Do worry about your health. Others really need you, and they really matter and that is all a beautiful thing! Regarding your job, work it best you can. They may keep people on edge for a ton of reasons. Just do what it takes to stay in the game, but do avoid letting all that get too far into your head. Ask for help. The other people you know are worth a lot! Now to fun stuff. Congratulations! You're going to be a dad! Having done it, I can tell you there is so much good fun love and beauty and all of this to appreciate. Try to get a hold of that as soon as you can and never let go. And I would have a talk with your spouse too. You need their support. And I'm sure they're ready to give it, so get all that lined up talk it through. And then I would lower some expectations. Go take a look at life. What you are doing what you're not, what you need what you don't, what you want, and just minimize all those things make room for having a kid, and once you get settled in and running good, build it back up then, but you can let a lot of that fall away right now and you'll be better for it. |