[bloomingeek]

May I say with all humility and honesty, I used to be what I call a "Christian perfectionist". Without going into a lengthy detail, I came to learn that trying to attain some kind of perfection was just a reason to be competitive and a way to judge others because of my feelings of not being good enough from a faith perspective. I now understand that trying to improve is the only compassionate way, both to myself and others. I explain this to other Christians when the opportunity arises, but it is a hard sell to them because we've been told for a long time how to believe.

[tobinfekkes]

I appreciate you sharing this, thank you. Always good to see another believer on HN.

I did similar too. Amongst the dozens of despicable things, one of the precious few good things to come out of a divorce is the new appreciation and deep understanding of God accepting us just as we are. Married or not, perfect or not (mostly not!), guilty or not. He pursues us, loves us, and improves us, slowly, over time.

[traviswt]

Glad you found your peace. Indeed, continuous self improvement is the fundamental concept in Christianity, constantly shooting for but never attaining the ideal of Jesus. It is a very difficult concept to teach, and I think most people get lost along the way during their “fake it until you make it” phase.

[philosopher1234]

We are all already fallen. Best to accept and care for it