[jvanderbot]

We've swung from "God's will" to "Fitness" a bit prematurely. Sure, there are many underlying causes for miscarriages (which we've experienced in our house, as well), but the sense I got from talking to our docs was that luck has as much to do with it as anything. The signals and systems that benefitted homonids a million years ago still affect our chances in the modern world, and are full of false positives and negatives, and luck (blood type, etc) plays an outsized role.

[pyuser583]

My wife has always had insanely irregular cycles. We ask the docs if that could be part of the problem and they’re like “maybe.”

The insane thing is that insurance doesn’t cover fertility treatments.

So she can ask about her irregular cycles, but the moment she asks if this will interfere with having a baby, the doctors say “if I answer that question, I’ll have to code this appointment in a way insurance won’t cover.”

Apparently in the eyes of insurance companies, a 30 year old woman who can’t get pregnant is perfectly healthy.