[mym1990]

I think there is a healthy way and an unhealthy way to go about it. Suppressing the urge to compare ourselves to others seems like it would be counterproductive and energy intensive. Some people take it a step further though and use others as a hard reference point for themselves. The issue I see with this is that we pretty much never know what is going on with someone else past a surface level, and this behavior can mute our individualistic strengths as well.

This isn't to say that having a reference point is not a good thing to have, role models can be a great thing. It is not difficult to imagine the best and worst version of yourself, and just use that as a spectrum for moving through life, imo.