[that_guy_iain]

> That seems.. unnecessarily harsh?

That was me honestly, trying not to be harsh. And it seems necessary.

> Why would you assume it was forced? At the time, my wife could barely mount an objection in that area.

Barely, so she did? And more or less, this was a decision made by you? That is how you put it across.

Edit: It's not a game of gotcha, it's that you made this clear and it was obivous. As I said, you put it across that you made the decsion and acted upon it. And seriously, look into getting help. It's not healthy.