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by neongreen 1389 days ago
Relatable.

I have the same problem, except it's not "I'm jealous that somebody gets more attention" but rather "I don't get attention and I have no idea how to change that". Doesn't looks like I'm the only person with this kind of issue, either.

I often see high-effort blog posts with, like, one or two comments under each post. Sometimes none at all.

To give a related example: https://twitter.com/tom7 does super high effort funny things for SIGBOVIK — e.g. see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDxjbXAqTPg — and yet his personal blog of 20 years at http://radar.spacebar.org/ has at most 5–10 comments per post.

I used to have 500 followers on Twitter and they would respond to things sometimes/often... and even then I felt like the attention would be very lukewarm. In the end I gave up, deleted the account, and decided that I'm just not going to rely on strangers for attention at all. I still think it's possible, it's just that I personally either don't know how to do it, or have some kind of a background issue (ADHD? anxiety? attachment issues? something else starting with A?) that prevents me from somehow asking for attention naturally/consistently. At least that's my current theory.

Eh.