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As someone married for the same length of time and with a shared account, your situation sounds very odd to me. I'm sure it works for you, but if I were in that situation, I don't think my marriage would feel as close. Each of us reconciling big purchases at the end of the year sounds so cold and transactional. We just have one pot of money, don't care who earns the most and have conversations about big purchases and get agreement from the other.