[legitster]

It's better to assume incompetence than malice. Some bosses legitimately want to follow up on feedback. But yeah, it's pretty dumb - he won't actually get honest answers this way.

I would shoot straight. Not once in my career have I ever suffered for an honest assessment given humbly. And you'll sleep better at night for it.

[Xeoncross]

> Not once in my career have I ever suffered for an honest assessment given humbly

Same here. People also learn they can trust you to tell them the truth and help them figure out a solution.

However, I have a low tolerance for bad work environments so YMMV but if you can't be honest with people or trust them, you probably want to look for an exit.

[lovingCranberry]

> I would shoot straight. Not once in my career have I ever suffered for an honest assessment given humbly

Same. It is frightening how many comments point to the exact opposite, presumably with the ulterior motive that this increases the chance of self-preservation.

But at the same time nothing can be improved by this. Although a team should have exactly this as a goal: improvement of the product/service.

[mywittyname]

People can have opposite experiences from the same situation, and all of them are equally valid. People are complicated and social structures are even more so.

It's valuable to provide people with context when giving advice from personal experience. The person hearing the advice needs to understand how the situation you presented mirrors theirs and also have an idea of how similarly they are going to be perceived compared to how you were.

[bendbro]

> Although a team should have exactly this as a goal: improvement of the product/service

Your personal goal should be to satisfy whoever writes your performance review.

[legitster]

This is like saying an athlete should try to impress his coach more than win games.

[bendbro]

This is exactly what you should tell athletes, especially ones in team based games. Going to the coach and demanding more play time will usually get better results than just silently being a good player.

Obviously this doesn't apply in individual pursuits like swimming [edit] or in situations where the coach is beholden to other parties (a paying audience).

[edit] To clarify: A coach should incentivize things they believe win games. An athlete should do those things so that the coach gives them playtime. An athlete should also promote the fact that they are doing those things to the coach.

[kibwen]

Incompetence, when exercised by people in a position of power, is indistinguishable from malice.

[legitster]

Says who? I certainly don't believe this at all.

[kibwen]

The possession of power implies a social obligation to use that power responsibly. Incompetence while exercising power is harmful to those forced to suffer such incompetence, and therefore tantamount to malice.