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by Silverback_VII 1398 days ago
>not worry about what people think

it's not about what others think of me. It is about what I think of myself.

Watching this kind of stuff sends the wrong signal to one's subconscious ... that one is still a "child"... and this will show up in one way or the other in one's interaction with other people.
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xsmasher 1398 days ago
You've taken on someone else's idea of what a man is and what a man does. You're the adult now, you get to decide what that means.

https://xkcd.com/150/

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Silverback_VII 1398 days ago
Well it maybe true to some degree and I'm all for being the best version of oneself. But many factors influence what a "man" is and one of them is the opposite sex.

it's already not so attractive to watch TV and even less attractive to watch anime or other children stuff on it.

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skyyler 1398 days ago
What it really comes down to is that you're too weak to be yourself.

This might hurt to hear, but you're a coward if you let gender roles stop you from enjoying something.

I sincerely recommend reading some theory on gender. Gender Trouble by Judith Butler is a surprisingly approachable introduction to the subject, despite not being written as such.

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xsmasher 1398 days ago
The "opposite sex" isn't a monolithic bloc.

You could police your identity to make yourself attractive to someone that you need to hide yourself from for the rest of your life, but it's a tremendous waste of energy. Find yourself an anime girlfriend.

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