[bradlys]

We got divorced. She refused to make more money even though she was capable, felt entitled to everything I was slaving for and that everything should go to her specifically and my needs weren’t important, and I was tired of it.

She now makes a lot more money. In the end - I got her to change but it cost everything to do it.

I found that some men are slightly resentful about large wage gaps but ultimately are like - “whatever… is what it is.” I find most women are intolerant of them making more money than their partner and find their partner significantly less attractive. They exhibit a lot of behaviors like your wife does.

There’s no solution to this except having married someone who didn’t get so much cultural brain rot instilled into them. The idea that men should always be breadwinners and take care of and baby wives is something that should be long gone - but most women (even progressive ones) still hold onto this value dearly. Most women I’ve met want to be coddled in some way. The difference between men and women here is that men will do what their wife wants but women won’t do what their husband wants. :shrug:

[serverholic]

You’re implying her behavior is entirely culturally learned and I don’t think I buy that.

I think it’s also plausible that most women are naturally driven towards men they view as equal to or better than themselves. One way of doing that is ensuring a man can take care of her.

As always, corner cases exist.