[iExploder]

> This arrangement kind of worked until it came time to use that rainy day funds and she started feeling that we were spending her money.

someone could also feel like having a divorce and filling up that warchest...

I'm married only for a few years, but I have some observations; money is a touchy subject, it is a big part of marriage and I think in the past the assets of partners were a decisive factor on whether the marriage could take place or not.

today, we live differently, but the nature of people has not changed, resources are vital and in case of disproportionate balance, in this case money wise, issues are sure to come up sooner or later...

I guess you will need to find a way to get on her level, or provide something to the marriage of equal value, or go solo and fill up that warchest...