[achenatx]

I dont get this at all. All salary goes into shared accounts, savings gets done first, bills come out etc.

We each get an allowance from what is left. This is money that can be spent without judgement/agreement etc.

The my money and your money is very weird to me. My wife hasnt worked at a paying job since we got married over 20 years ago.

[thrwaway414]

I'm wondering if it could be a cultural issue. Traditionally, the man has been the main provider. Even though it doesn't make much sense in a modern society, attitudes takes time to adjust.

Maybe she (subconsciously) considers this differently than if the situation was reversed.