[saradhi]

Apart from "Husband-Wife-relation" and "money shouldn't be in between a relationship" comments. Here is my take and what we do.

Have you tried a shared account? Every month, each deposit the same amount of money, lets say 4K each, towards house and common expenses anything you both/the family spend. All extra money carry forwards and utilize it for more payments towards the house loan, extra purchase for the home or a happy vacation trip. Always maintain a positive shared-account balance. Anytime the balance goes negative, split it equally and reload it.

P.S: My wife earns more than me. She spends on her dresses and bags with her money in the bank, I spend my money on keyboards & shoes.. We never found any issues with that..