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I agree with the posters that said have a single pool of money and it becomes your money. Perhaps it won't work for everyone, but that's where I'm at.

That being said, I do appreciate your point about the chores. In other families often only one person is employed. The other person is also doing nearly 100% of the chores, or child care, parental care, or other things. It does deviate from the original question a bit, but I think it's important that there's lots of other labor in a family. It's critical to notice IMO because those will almost never directly add to your money number, yet you wouldn't ever skimp on it.