[browningstreet]

I think the first question you really have to understand the answer to is: how likely are you to live your whole lives together? It sounds like there's some disconnect on this particularly matter.

Also, per other commenters, I think it's actually easier to manage money when one person is a big earner and the other person is a small earner. I've found this to be true myself. It can be harder when one person is a good/high earner and the other person is a very high earner.