[brailsafe]

Yes, I thought this way in my early twenties, and after that phase I learned to identify those (mutable) traits in others as hollow and immature. Often characterized by how arbitrarily they approach moments in life. Counter to this, I make a very deliberate effort to spend as much time as I feasibly can with specific people for no particular reason other than I enjoy their company and I want them to similarly feel like it's a relationship worth having around longer, because that's inherently virtuous. The activity could be arbitrary or specific. If it's specific, then I might choose the person specifically for it, but if the person is specific, then the activity arbitrarily serves the nature of spending time with the person. I'm never arbitrarily spending time with arbitrary people for a specific outcome though.