[xisthesqrtof9]

I also grew up in a very strict Muslim household and this is very close to where I see religion’s place in the future of my (potential) family. A couple of questions that have been in my mind, that id like to ask.

How do you choose which parts to share with your kids and which ones to omit?

Have you found a community that your family can use to replace the church? For me I’d think they would be people from my back home, as a visible minority that’s quite easy but I do feel that if you don’t follow the religion entirely, you’d get judged and ostracized.

[acjohnson55]

My wife's family is also Christian (but Catholic, in comparison to my Baptist family) and so my kids get incidental exposure to Christian ideas. But I don't tell them that the ideas are true. I kind of hope they see them like all of the other stories they know: as stories, with useful ideas.

I try to as much as possible demonstrate humanitarianism in how I treat them and others. I try to teach them self-reflection and gratitude, which I think are some of the most important aspects of prayer. I also try to give them perspective on differentials in privilege. But this is all a lot to try to create and teach independently.

We have a lot of friends and relatives we see often, but I wouldn't say we have anything quite like what you get with a church. I've considered trying out a Unitarian Universalist church (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unitarian_Universalism). But there's not one that's close enough to me to motivate me to make it part of my routine.