[ralphael]

Its called "Instant Messaging" :-) So I think the expectation is built into the name, even if you don't agree.

[evandale]

I would have to disagree. To me "Instant Messaging" != "Instant Answering". It's only a guarantee that the message is delivered instantly.

[ninju]

And unfortunately there is an implicit expectation that the reply is to be sent immediately as well.

[nottorp]

Start with disabling auto away :)