[JonShartwell]

I appreciate the advice, but I already see a therapist. Here I was looking more for perspectives from people with personal experience.

Also I think “get a counselor” is really overused advice that can be a lot less helpful than people think. I have had 5 therapists in my life (I clearly have a lot of problems haha) and all of them except the current one I would say were actively harmful to my mental health. I think I have had particularly bad luck and am an unusual case, but the generic advice glosses over the fact that finding a therapist who works for you is not an easy task, whether you can afford it or not. If someone is asking for advice with a specific problem online, I think it’s a lot more helpful to try to help than to tell them that they need to undertake what could be a months or years long process to find a therapist who works for them, and act like that’s easy.