[michaelgrafl]

Unfortunately many parents pass on really shrill and tasteless clothes made from cheap synthetic fabric. If you care about esthetics and teaching your children about style and materials, trading clothes becomes much more difficult.

Flea markets turned out to be a much better source for fantastic old clothes, but require more time and at least some money.

However, with three children who inherit their older siblings clothes, many pieces don't survive the third iteration of wear and tear.

[stevekemp]

Over the past few years I've been raising a child, and we bought literally nothing for the first two-three years.

When he was born the government gave us a box of clothes, and accessories, and later neighbours gave us their children's old clothes too.

But I find it fascinating that you talk about teaching children about style. Our child, like almost all the others I've seen, would just wear what they were given. When they reach three/four years old suddenly they have preferences, and I'd love to know where they came from.

Our childs preferences aren't so fixed, a favorite t-shirt today might become ignored next week, but there are some consistent comments and behaviours. He told us a few months ago "I don't want to wear that jacket, it is yellow".

Peer pressure, and conformity, probably play a part to some extent. But the rest? Where does that come from, and does it alway start that early?

(e.g. He wanted to wear nail varnish from ~3 years old. And was sad "The children at daycare said boys can't wear nail-varnish" so I told him we both could, and we painted each others nails for a few weeks until he lost interest.)

[michaelgrafl]

It's a question I can't answer. But I guess like most things it's a mix of nature and nurture.

My son's favorite t-shirt right now has a print of Sonic the hedgehog, because that's what he's playing on my Dreamcast.

But other that he prefer's toned down and restricted color combinations. And I often get compliments for well our children are dressed, although it's purely my wife's work.

It's sad that peer pressure starts as early as three years old. My oldest son used to like wearing light pink and dresses at that age, but only at home. Never at kindergarten.

My youngest son, now 2, says he wants to be a girl. Turns out he's envious of his sister wearing dresses. He also paints his nails when my wife forgets to hide her nail color well enough.

We mostly let them decide themselves as long as it's fit for the weather, and they usually do well.

[anon291]

> However, with three children who inherit their older siblings clothes, many pieces don't survive the third iteration of wear and tear.

Wow those cheap synthetics passed down among countless generations at church sure look good then.

[michaelgrafl]

You mean they look intact. I'm pretty sure they don't look good.