[ryandrake]

I have a family and kid and hobbies and an already-demanding (time-wise) job and can absolutely say that the current high-friction hazing ritual style of tech interviewing dissuades me from looking around, even though I know I could make more by going through Thunderdome again. Even with recruiters reaching out and starting the process, interviewing is a grueling “second full-time job”.

[Aeolun]

It’s not that the interviews themselves are so terrible. I’m just a bit tired of random people saying I’m not a good fit because I couldn’t answer a specific question to their satisfaction.

I’ve been a valuable member of the team at my current company, and have received a mix of raises and promotions. I’m inclined to believe I’d do equally well elsewhere, but I first have to prove in a few hours what the past few years apparently couldn’t…

[WorldMaker]

Yeah, the nitpicky rejection cycles starts to feel like an industry wide mixture of gaslighting and almost intentional impostor syndrome creation tools. All the statistics of people in FAANG/GAFAM roles that feel stuck in them because they are certain they'd not pass the interview cycle again if they left. All the statistics of "dark matter" developers that are continually harassed by FAANG/GAFAM recruiters to interview but then continually ghosted without feedback following the interviews.

Lots of mentions of how much it resembles hazing rituals, and that also seems to be the intent of many hazing rituals: gaslight about the relative strengths of "the in group" and build survivorship bias among those that make it into "the in group" and survive the hazing rituals.