[jeofken]

> I know both of them want to see grandkids, and I still dread the day when I have to tell them it's probably never going to happen. The best I can do at that point is probably to make up some other reason why, instead of telling them the real reason: them.

I’m sorry to hear you had to experience your family breaking.

Lying to them is a disservice - breaking a marriage has always been taboo for these consequences - risking ruining the childrens future families. Our actions ripple through the generations. The truth may make them feel agony at their realisation of their actions consequences, but without truth, we can not navigate in this world.