[gonzo41]

My father recently died and one of the strangest emotions that I felt after his death was not of sadness but of relief. He wasn't old or in pain. It wasn't relief for him. His death was an accident and I'm sad about that for his wife and everyone else including me.

The relief I felt was from expectations lifting. It's made me do a lot of thinking about how I live my life, and the implicit choices I've made due to expectations on me. Most of which I didn't really see as external forces for the longest time.

Whilst it's easy to say, but hard to do, I would suggest you just live life how you want, your parents are adults and are responsible for their emotions. Again it's easy to say this. Hard to do it.