[codingdave]

> I'm sure there are many thoughts going through your mind regarding the team and perhaps my lack of management skills but I am only lead on the project, I don't manage people.

No, you almost hit the nail on the head. This is not about management, it is about leadership and it sounds like a lack of leadership skills. Mentoring people to point out why their behaviors have a negative impact and how to grow to more productive habits is leadership. It is the role of a team lead. Communicating these concerns to them in a way that is productive and not combative is a skill you need to learn.

We all were unskilled once. And probably still are in various ways. We grow by having people guide us. Be that guide.

As far as adversely affecting the project, which will be a worse result? Quietly grumbling and not bringing change? Or putting up with some difficult conversations and improving the team?