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by _gmnw 1429 days ago
How can I share this with a coworker without being rude haha?
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Totally understand. It's the most common question I've gotten for those who themselves experience 'the blah' by someone else.

I published an FAQ (https://unblah.me/#faqs) earlier today. Posting it here for simplicity:

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Question: I have this person on my team who talks WAY too much and never notices it. They LOVE hearing themselves talk and never shut up. Should I tell them to get this app?

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Answer: First off... I believe your struggle with this person is 100% real. I fully believe their behavior is affecting you negatively.

But, my answer is a STRONG NO. Please don’t use Unblah as a proxy for a difficult conversation that sounds like it needs to be had.

Think about it: They would never use it anyways, because, as you’re saying yourself “...and never even notice it.”.

They don't have a problem.

You do.

I don't know how much rapport you two have, how much safe space you can create for resolving this situation, etc.

So, to keep everyone safe, please check with HR or leadership on how to best deal with this situation if it impacts you, your team and your performance.

For learning more on this kind of topic, I can recommend “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Bruce Patton, Douglas Stone, and Sheila Heen.

This sounds like a possible next step for your app: “unblah” for teams.
Yes, has been on my radar for exactly that reason. I want to believe there is a wetware solution in there somewhere :)
And: You can always lead by example!