[superchroma]

I currently do. One of my managers complains bitterly about meetings, management decisions and people he dislikes to a usual group of people he feels he trusts (which I am sadly in, and he will trash members of that group whilst talking other members also), he generally exhibits little empathy and frequently declares work he organizes to be easy, discourages dissent in estimates in sprint planning and then needles people when they struggle with it whilst never leaning in to help, and is broadly disrespectful to people he perceives as moving slower than his pace or that think different. I've had a falling out with him before, but have ended up reporting to him again due to unfortunate events.

Generally, he refuses to work with people to build trust and advance his views, fails to control his temper and also refuses to try and identify deeper issues behind things he gets annoyed about in terms of process or the organization, which means a lot of his behavior is meaningless and he functionally does very little.

Frustratingly, I feel like I've become a more impatient and less supporting person whilst working under him as it's easy to get caught up in impotent anger, and I'm having to carefully reexamine how I work with people to try and find a better normal. I've previously had a very good manager before that, so this has been very hard for me.

[Peach_blue]

That sounds awful. Especially noticing it changes you as a person.

I hope you find a way to deal with it that is acceptable.