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by 0xbadcafebee 1443 days ago
Alain's advice/statements include:

- All parties are terrible and you're a terrible person if you like parties

- Women date abusive men because they were traumatized as a child, and they avoid nice guys, so be an asshole to women

- You can't be a good person unless you had a shitty time growing up, and people only start families to deal with their own shitty family trauma, so, good luck

- You are doomed to an unhappy marriage. Don't look for someone you like, look for someone you can endure

- People with bad taste were traumatized as children. All Russians and Saudi Arabians have bad taste

- People give self help books a lot of shit, but you should read self help books (Alain sells self help books)

- For dinner you should order children's fish sticks, cranberry juice, and the most expensive dessert, the last two because you feel awkward about ordering the first one, and this will help you on a date

3 comments

You're getting downvoted, but this is barely a caricature.

Here's the man himself holding forth on interior design. Apparently people who like minimalism are compensating for their inner emotional chaos, and people who like rustic country stylings want a break from being overwhelmed by technology. People who have ornate gold everywhere are terrified of being poor.

It's silly pseudo-psychological nonsense - all opinion, with no empirical basis.

Worse, it ignores the existence of competitive status display and class identification.

Worse than that, he's clearly writing about himself and generalising to other people.

There's an entire book of this. If you want to learn nothing about taste or architecture - but more than you want to know about Alain de Botton - you can read it.

https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=646338...

Perhaps if you cite some sources for your claims (e.g. timestamped links to the relevant videos) you would not receive so many downvotes
True. But I take after Alain, in that I do not cite any sources and expect you to believe whatever I say.

(most of them come from the 2 takedown videos linked in a parent comment, the rest are from Alain's own press or blog posts writing about them)

Maliciously reductive, basically a Reddit-tier comment. Thumbs down.
Your own comment seems highly constructive and informative with a well reasoned argument