| I'm again impressed by your engagement. I understand why you wanted the focus to be more generic. That's not how I or most other problem solvers I know approach solving problems. Certainly, one could write out a general theory of optimal mate selection that you would be able to apply to yourself without further back and forth. Crafting such a theory is several orders of magnitude more difficult than searching for a potential improvement in a given implementation. With the disclaimer that I can't speak for others, I suggest that figuring out your rejection function isn't about deciding whether a given decision is good or bad and most certainly isn't an attempt to tell you who you should be attracted to. There are a few intellectually interesting puzzles it presents:
1. Given some sense of what appeals to actfrench, where is she likely to find more such people? //You provided enough information to give a sense of this
2. Is there a discernible reason that the men she tends to accept tend to reject her? //I have a hypothesis but this is less clear
3. Is there some fundamental conflict between different aspects of what she likes? //Again, less clear
4. Are there reasons to filter someone out earlier in the process? //Again, maybe but unclear As you note, you have no obligation to deal with any of this. But since you came back after a few days and decided to invest your energy in this, I'm giving you the perspective of one of those guilty of the aforementioned sin on why your psyche seems like a crucial part of solving the puzzle. Ultimately dating is optimizing three things:
1. The utility of members of the candidate stream: P(Match) - Cost of discovery
2. The quality of rejection function which is a function of both information collected and discriminatory power
3. The probability that the candidate one most wants, wants you back Anyway, yes, we can solve any problem in the world. One of us has to decide to build a new type of matching experience. I've toyed with doing so as I'm sure dozens of others here have. Sadly, the main constraint is time. Do we fix dating or healthcare or politics or education or just keep our little slice of industry functioning smoothly in exchange for the resources to live. It will be solved. When and by whom remains unknown. In the meantime, cheers to special casing the problem and decrementing the target market size by one. |