[dspillett]

> If you figure out the reason why and cut through your social-programming, then you'll have them.

This is as strongly biased as the original question, suggesting that not wanting kids is wrong and something that they should perhaps seek to correct.

I'm pretty definitely secure in the feeling that I don't want my own kids or to raise someone else's. I don't consider others wrong for wanting descendents for whatever reason they do¹, while they sometimes take issue with my lack of desire in the matter. And being male I have it easier: not wanting a family seems more acceptable for us, were some female friends of mine are regularly nagged about it and even sometimes called selfish⁴. The “selfish” insult has always bemused me: we aren't begrudging the taxes that go into services to help parents and educate children, so we are net creators of resource rather than selfishly taking that which someone else might need/want.

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[1] Though I question some more specifically: those taking on the responsibility² when they are not really ready or well resourced for it³

[2] I'm only considering those who plan parenthood here, or those who knowingly take actions that might result in it, not those who find themselves in that situation because of circumstances beyond their control

[3] Particularly those that already have families they struggle to support and intentionally have more

[4] Amongst other insults.