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I am a parent and I'm not a hypocrite so obviously the reality isn't rosy at all. If you want to look for bad things, you can always find plenty of them. As for benefits, there are also a few. The most important one depends on whether you have a kind of higher goal beyond this life. If not, personally I wouldn't have a kid. Because the reality for all humans is the same: we are young, we have a lot of expectations, then we have to work to sustain ourselves, then we become older and older, get more ill, and finally die. So from the perspective of human life the end is never bright. But if you have a wider perspective, things get more interesting. And at this point having a kid makes sense. The negative aspects don't disappear, but there is more to gain (not for you, for the kid).

That said, having a kid is always a gamble. It may turn out they have a very bad character, some grave illness or other serious problems. We all gamble hoping it will happen to someone else, but there is no any guarantee. And if it happens to us, we basically have to live with it until the end, and frankly it's a miserable life.