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by silicon2401 1450 days ago
To even ask the question is to misunderstand what drives most people to have kids. The reason they do it is the same reason they do anything: because they feel the need to. I won't have kids because I look at the pros and cons and the idea simply doesn't outweigh the cons. Some people are attached to things like the idea of passing on their genes, having someone to care for, having someone to care for them in their old age, not being lonely, giving their life purpose. If you don't care about those things then having children loses a lot of value.

Unfortunately you're seeing in this thread a reflection of how the world reacts to people who don't want kids. People are incredibly shameless about how intolerant they are towards the idea and shameless in how they stigmatize not having kids: for example saying "you're not ready to be a parent", assuming that being a parent is something that should even be done in the first place, rather than sincerely discussing whether or not being a parent is best for a particular person