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I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. I'm going to mostly share info about public benefits in case it's helpful, just because that's what I know (and I don't have as much knowledge about some of your other questions.)

What state are you in? I know you mentioned SSDI, but just to relieve some of the stress of getting by, you should try to apply for as many public benefits as you might be eligible for (SNAP/food assistance, Medicaid [medical care], affordable connectivity program [internet], Lifeline [phone.]) With little or no income, you should get some decent support from these programs.

For getting disability support (SSDI, or SSI), you might consider getting a lawyer. You're right it can take a long time to get this, but odds go up if you have a lawyer helping you. You can also contact your local legal aid which you may qualify for based on income.

In terms of jobs I'll do some thinking and see if I can post more. Are there any activities that you can definitely do without getting stuck due to your disability? There are definitely options for flexible computer work, and also things that are more phone-oriented.

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To add on to this comment, many public benefits are based off of financial households (who shares bills), rather than physical households (who happens to live under the same roof). For example, SNAP eligibility calculation is based off of who purchases&prepares food together. If you purchase and prepare food separately from the family you live with, then your SNAP household size is 1 (just you) and is based off of only your own income. Even if you don't think you'll qualify, it's worth applying because a) the benefits you receive are based off of application date and b) your caseworker may know of unobvious ways to adjust your income so you are eligible.