I feel like going on dates and being pro-active about reading etc is better than sitting alone in my house pining for a boyfriend, which I did for about 5-7 years. No?
Maybe going out not on dates and just doing things you enjoy will lead to meeting people you have things in common with?
My $0.02 is you are spending way too much time trying to find The One™ and the guys (not just solely trying to hookup) are getting that vibe and running for the exit. Dudes get jittery when they think they’re walking into a baby trap, you have to sneak up on them. Kind of like taming a horse really, probably some good YouTubes videos on how to wear a man…err, horse down so you can saddle ‘em up and take a whip to them.