[jodrellblank]

Thankfully, I haven't. Telling someone who was physically assaulted that at least they weren't murdered isn't much comfort. If you're saying "the amount of harm they do is different", I agree. If you're saying "people can't be harmed by words", I disagree - especially at a population level; popularising and spreading of ideas that certain subgroups are subhuman has happened over and over in many countries and caused lots of harm. Punching someone is worse than calling them a moron, but bruises from childhood heal in weeks where verbal assault from childhood (e.g. by an abusive parent or teacher, as well as by peers) can still be hurting decades later with wider knock-on effects.

[toolz]

I think people very generally miss the very important subtlety that words never hurt people. It's the intention behind the words that hurt and you don't need words to communicate intent. So banning/censoring words really doesn't do much other than placate the people who just wanted to feel involved in changing the status quo.

Compare that to a punch to the face. It really doesn't matter if someone was just joking or angry with you, 150 psi to your jaw is going to do damage.

[wizofaus]

"Only someone who is so privileged as to have never been physically assaulted could think that it doesn't cause life long physiological and psychological damage"

Depends entirely on the degree and nature of the assault. I was beat up badly at school at least a few times, I'd dare suggest if anything it made me stronger, and certainly can't think of anything likely longterm damage it's caused. But I certainly don't presume it's the same for all kids.

[jodrellblank]

I don't think phsyical assault cannot cause lifelong damage. Is it a terrible weakness of my privilege that I would like a society where other people have such a good life as I have had, instead of a difficult stressful dog-eat-dog life to try and toughen them up to survive a dog-eat-dog life? As if that's my business?

> "I was beat up badly at school at least a few times, I'd dare suggest if anything it made me stronger"

Overcoming challenges builds character, but wouldn't it be nicer if you chose the challenges? If you had built strength by choosing to do Karate and learn Mandarin instead of being badly beaten up being foisted upon you? Women report being catcalled from puberty around age 13; is your response to that "if anything it makes them stronger; women who didn't get catcalled are just privileged and weak"?

[wizofaus]

Who said that was my response?? I totally agree that physical AND mental/verbal abuse should be chargeable offenses. I'm less sure why the former is necessarily always worse than the latter, but it's sure easier to prove the damage in court.

[ellopoppit]

That's a very good point which I totally agree with, and also why martial arts and controlled sparring can be extremely beneficial experiences

[ellopoppit]

>bruises from childhood heal in weeks where verbal assault from childhood (e.g. by an abusive parent or teacher, as well as by peers) can still be hurting decades later with wider knock-on effects.

That's like saying physical damage from a rape will heal in weeks but verbal sexual harrassment can still be hurting decades later.

[jodrellblank]

You're trying to say that I'm suggesting verbal sexual harrassment is worse than rape because it lasts longer? But you're ignoring that rape involves psychological traumas of losing trust in people, nightmares, loss of bodily autonomy and control, being afraid to go out in some situations, or to some places, which lasts much longer than the physical damage (of a non-violent rape). If you include those things then you have both types of attack having mental harm and rape having more of it (because of the intimacy and intensity and loss of control, among other things) and rape having physical harm too, which makes rape worse.

> but verbal sexual harrassment can still be hurting decades later.

In the vein of putting words in peoples mouths, you think this is a positive good thing and a reason you support verbal sexual harassment because it will toughen people up for decades? (I suspect not).