[jstarfish]

Don't know your situation beyond what you've disclosed here, but this may not be PTED, just borderline/histrionic personality disorder. You say she's smart, so Narcissistic might be in scope as well (though I find former-school-bully-types are most often the ones who lean that way). Whatever the "diagnosis," reading up on dealing with the behaviors of these types might be of some help to you.

> She just emailed me today saying she sent over a hundred bucks to some random political organization in my home country, which is invariably part of some convoluted scheme.

Doubtless. You might want to look into this "random" organization and make sure she didn't sign your name to it to get you on the public donor list for your local chapter of NAMBLA. These types love to mislead and/or lie by omission. Even if this organization is legit, you're looking where she wants you to look, so it may still be a red herring.

> She's smart, and there's never quite enough evidence for a restraining order or similar legal channels (and she's a much better communicator than I am; everyone believes her).

Your reputation is clearly under assault-- if you haven't already, put a Google alert out on your name to pick up on any developments in the future. She seems the type to know better than to publish anything defamatory herself, hence my above speculation (such action would make you appear to defame yourself).

For what it's worth, after the successes of #MeToo it didn't take long for the opportunists to undermine the credibility of all women. The world is losing patience for its Amber Heards.

[hydrok9]

Good advice. I've had friends with borderline partners and they were very dangerous and controlling once things went bad. BPD patients tend to have trouble with the self-awareness part of it so treatment is hard as well (afaik).