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by Maursault 1463 days ago
For one, Good parents don't submit their children to unreasonable searches. Also, if the parenting is good, the search is unnecessary, because there is nothing illicit to find. I'm not a parent, and I realize it is very hard to do well, but my understanding is it has to do with the right attention at the right times, mostly just being there, but also not shying away from correcting discipline. Parents that become their childrens' best friends and never correctly discipline them for fear of their hatred only produces narcissistic children. I think the family unit must be relied upon, separation and sacrifice of duties, with the mother the nurturer and the father the "whip," (i do not advocate for corporal punishment, whip is metaphore) usually kids turn out ok. When roles are mixed or when no one wants to do the hard work of being the bad cop is when kids learn they can get away with murder.

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