[gunfighthacksaw]

I’m the same. I’ve had a large volume of sex but only with 3 women. Obviously I have a libido, but it gets overridden often by “this person is awful and I don’t want to bang them” as well as good old social anxiety/the tism.

I think for the majority of guys, the rigmarole around getting hookups was always a delicate calculus involving tradeoffs in money and time, for an uncertain payoff: a good lay if you’re lucky and bragging rights.

Now the economy is tighter and society has made bragging about conquests a bit less acceptable, so I think our pattern of just having deep (and free) sex with a loving partner is much more appealing.