[annyeonghada]

>We all know that one guy who does well despite not being physically attractive.

I actually don't. I keep seeing these meme constantly repeated and I actually made a list of unattractive males... and they, mostly, have never had luck with relationship. Physical attractiveness is very important, whatever the consensus du jour say about it.

[globular-toast]

I think you either don't know many people or you're subconsciously focussing on the negative examples. We also all know that one guy who isn't successful but defeats himself by setting ridiculous standards. Just walk around town one day and look at the couples. You'll see most of the men really aren't anything to look at.

It's amazing how your mindset can make the world look completely different. That mindset also makes you completely unattractive to women. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. The information is out there to help, if you want it. The short version is to socialise more and think less.

[bradlys]

Same. I don't know any of these men and have never known any either. Sometimes I've wondered why some guys get some gals but then I talk to the women and they're like, "Oh, he's actually very physically attractive." So just because I couldn't see it doesn't mean the women didn't.

At no point have I heard multiple women say they are falling head over heels for a man due to his personality alone. Almost always - the man is physically attractive to them as well.