[stjohnswarts]

THose skills will never come if you don't put yourself out there. It doesn't have to be a dating/hookup app like bumble/tender/etc just go to the library, get a dog and go to the park (how I met my wife), take dance lessons. It'll take a while but will happen. I was in a similar boat to you. Be honest with yourself. Shyness isn't necessarily a turn off to women (or any gender), nor is being rotund. However, if you have bad hygiene or stare at boobs a lot, break those habits.