[gowld]

It's a very hard problem. Not all parents and kin are talented or loving caregivers. Similarly for foster parents, who may be looking for a victim to abuse or exploit for funding.

Parents generally have a strong biological emotional bond to their children, and people who have lived together for mny years often develop a bond too. It's hard to create that bond if it's failed or never existed.

[wolverine876]

I think you may be misunderstanding the GP's statement of the problem: It's not parenting or bonds, it's poverty.

> Outside of straight up abuse (which was present within foster care and with "kin") the problem wasn't really with individuals (my parents or other guardians), it was poverty and problems stemming from poverty (e.g. drug abuse, homelessness). Everyone in my family and community was poor, and had been for generations, so I got fucked over by the system again and again.