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It sounds like you’re saying: all I need to do is stop, but I can’t! Meaning you are in your own way.

If you have positive cash flow right now I’d recommend finding a therapist, since personality changes like this can take some deep digging. Personally I have found experiential therapy useful, things like EMDR, process work, gestalt, or even jungian dream analysis. Many on HN speak positively about cognitive therapy like CBT. You will need to spend a little time exploring and may not find the right fit with your first therapist. Good luck!

[flying_colours]

Hmm on therapy - I most likely have ADD but I'm not 100% sure. I tend to not concentrate very well. I do know people have said I'm enthusiastic, loud, hyper, sometimes even on drugs (but I'm 100% not).

I'm happy my family and friends, and well HN family is supportive so thats nice :)

[kennywinker]

Therapy isn’t really about diagnosing things like ADD. Therapists can’t prescribe drugs, etc. Therapy is good for helping understand why we do things we don’t think we want to do.

I.e. it’s possible you’re not actually being “used” and that’s just a framing you’ve created to manage other feelings around usefulness + your own value. Or conversely you ARE being used, but you don’t want to stop because it provides something, some feeling, that you do want.

(I’m not actually suggesting those specific things apply to you - those are just made up examples)

I’ve found therapy really really helpful in terms of decoding motivations I wasn’t consciously aware of. Would highly recommend!

[flying_colours]

True I'll consider therapy :)) Nah definitely the latter - my parents and siblings keep telling me about my situations since it happened already like 20 times.

[jakelazaroff]

FWIW, diagnosing and treating mental illnesses only partially overlaps with therapy. It's also useful for help with emotional/mental/social things in your life you just have trouble with — in your case, setting boundaries.

A psychiatrist prescribes medication; a therapist is more of a confidante and a coach. Whether you have ADD or not, there's no shame in employing someone to help you be a better you!

[flying_colours]

Thanks :)) Yee definitely will seek some help :)))