[swe_dima]

I think my case is definitely not a good example for a healthy work life balance, but going to tell it nonetheless, maybe someone finds themselves in this story. Been coding 60+ hours per week for the last 9 years, usually do programming on both weekends.

I have a partner but no kids, have no idea how it would be possible if I had them. Due to lack of free time and sport injuries my hobbies have mostly reduced to frequent travelling. Since I travel I barely have any friends, so I don't spend any time with them.

I try to exercise regularly, exercise takes time but it pays off for my energy levels and decreases stress.

I have recently self-diagnosed myself with ADHD, sitting idle and just relaxing produces too much anxiety, so I have to jump back into doing things. Another important thing for motivation is feeling that your work is meaningful and that you can influence the product. Being a cog in a big machine implementing what other hand down to me would have brought a feeling of helplessness.

[fy20]

> Been coding 60+ hours per week for the last 9 years, usually do programming on both weekends.

I did the same until I had kids. Now it's rare for me to even touch a computer at the weekend.

My side projects never took off, but they did help me to become the developer who I am today, so I don't consider them time wasted but at the same time I don't feel that I'm missing out now.

[poulpy123]

Just as a note, you probably don't have ADHD but an anxiety related to underachievement

[therusskiy]

My self-diagnosis doesn't come from this alone. But you might be right, I constantly feel like I have not achieved enough.

[muzani]

Ambition-driven hyperactivity disorder