might also be a generational thing. A lot of older folks in my experience tend to be more plain and just say "I write software for a living" rather than doing the whole I am head of X in the Y division and I'm a code artisan".
yes, i suspect that with age comes a certain zero-fucks-given modesty about what you do. youve got nothing left to prove and you are at peace with what you did. imagine Theo de Raadt aged 60 telling a room full of toddlers "i helped people on one computer do things on another" while all the grasping 25 year olds are claiming to be the Vice President of Interdomain Nodal connectivity (SSH Division 2)
I've spent 10+ years in SaaS businesses, and I've simplified my job description to: I work for a software company.
It does not say anything about what I do, it could mean engineering or accounting or...
And if/when people want to know more, they just ask.
Bring rather vague helps everyone get just what they want. I always show up happy to answer and open for questions but also offer them exit paths regularly.
Amusingly enough, my dad, who has written kernel-level drivers, has basically the same answer for what I do.
Me? I’m a janitor for the internet plumbers.