| There is a lot of money in porn. A lot of motivation to attempt to carve out an innocent seeming narrative. I was addicted to porn for decades. I didn't always look or watch it but it was tied to lust which I fed and fed. Crawling out of the deep dark pit was hard, really hard. Probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I had a supportive spouse that supported me and helped me, which was a big help. I'm now free over 6 years and have a pretty good view. Only after I had loosed the last few hooks in my soul did I begin to see what my life was missing. How it had contributed to my shame, hollow worthlessness, and straight up selfishness. How my "love" for my spouse was a pitiful thing that finally bloomed into something real. You don't need a study too see the effects, just one person who's walked the path can tell you what they were and what's different. People who are addicted can't see what they are missing as they usually got involved so young they don't remember not feeling that way. Often they know our at least feel that something is wrong. But they can't really see the whole of it either without the real perspective of the other side. Ignore your fellows ringing the warning bells at your peril. |