[gumby]

> A hack that takes advantage of this is to look for activities/events where you spend a lot of sustained time with others.

This is a good one. I really like camping, so being out in the backcountry for a week or ly helps you understand if you really get along with someone. Planning a trip, dividing up who brings what etc let’s you see how the other person approaches things.

[andrewljohnson]

Backpacking was how I spent a lot of time with who turned into my wife and cofounder. It’s fun but can also be slightly stressful at times and you see many aspects of a person. 15 years into our relationship and I felt like we’ve known each other very deeply since the beginning.

[ajmurmann]

I think stressful situations are good for building relationships. Even if the stress is conflict with each other, of you break the relationship it will frequently be stronger after. I think psychology refers to this as Rupture and Repair.

[em-bee]

it's how you handle those stressful times and seeing those many aspects which make the difference