[kelseyfrog]

Well made points. Expanding on one part, there is a social contingent who gatekeeps victimhood itself. In their eyes they see too much victimhood and decide that the solution is that less people should be calling themselves victims. Would some victims do well to shift the locus of control inward, sure, but that's probably best left to the victim to decide rather than being decided for them.

Part of this behavior denies victimhood as a form of social control. It's a malignant form of denying victim hood and it's most dangerous form

[s1artibartfast]

This raises the interesting question of why victims seek external validation in the first place.

I think it is often the case that victims are seeking something, so it seems natural for the cohort to gatekeep. If someone were to ask me for special consideration or treatment on account of being a victim, I want to know they are genuine.