[rufus_foreman]

OK, we're using words differently here.

I think accountable means that when I give someone money, they should use my money for what I want, and you think accountable means that when I give someone money, they should use my money for what you want.

[lmm]

The whole point of "giving" is that it's no longer "my money". If it's still your money then it's not a donation.