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by twelve40 1495 days ago
I appreciate the tips (really) but the gist of it sounds awfully close to "just treat them like a baby and pamper them". Could work if you _really_ need this person, but doesn't sound... healthy?
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No. The point is to have clear boundaries. In fact, "treat them like a baby and pamper them" is quite the opposite of the advice

Don't offer to help them. If they ask for help, only agree if not expecting anything in return. Or be clear about what you'll want in return. Everyone is different: they may react negatively to rejection, which is it's own problem, others may not hold a grudge

Be straightforward: call them out on their behavior, preferably privately to avoid power games. Let them know the boundaries which if crossed you'll disengage from them over

I think that is more part of your personal growth.

People wont change. Some never grow up. Some never get past baby stage.

Its up to you to accept how they are, or step aside and forge your own path

It isn't healthy. It takes some serious honesty with yourself to decide who you really need.
and pay them lots of attention to keep them happy.